Losing a pregnancy or a newborn is a heartbreaking experience for mothers, fathers and families. While the pain of loss may seem overwhelming, moving past your grief is possible. You can do it with the loving support of those who are close to you.
Remember that you are not alone
Other mothers and families have felt the loss of a baby. Many of them have chosen to address their grief by working with grieving mothers who have more recently experienced the same kind of loss.
By connecting with others, you can share your emotions in a “judgment-free zone” and find ears that are willing to listen. They can provide a nurturing, caring environment that will help you address your grief. And they can share the coping skills they learned during their own moments of difficulty.
Groups like these provide a source of comfort, care and compassion to help with a range of needs that may arise.
- M.E.N.D. (Mommies Enduring Neonatal Death)
Miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss support group offering an inviting place mothers can share their experiences with others.
- Compassionate Friends
For bereaved parents, siblings and grandparents seeking comfort, hope and grief support.
- My Red Tent
Devoted to providing mental health resources to women suffering from depression and anxiety during pregnancy and postpartum or after loss.
- Hand to Hold
Family support and one-on-one mentoring available before, during, and after a NICU stay and infant loss.
Do your best to reduce stress
The weeks and months following the loss of a child are very stressful times. And this stress can take a big toll on your physical and emotional well-being, leading to physical and psychological health problems that can last for many years.
You can take small steps to reduce stress by:
- Switching to deep, slow breaths when you begin feeling anxious
- Trying to sleep between seven and eight hours a night
- Staying active and engaging in moderate exercise
- Expressing your feelings of grief through creative pursuits (writing, painting, dance or song)
Seek professional counseling for depression
Parents who have lost a child can face feelings of depression and anxiety, from constant sadness and sleep deprivation to persistent worrying, feelings of detachment and panic attacks. Talk to your nurse or health care provider about your feelings. They can get you the help you need.
Help is also available by calling National Lifeline for Support at (800) 273-TALK (8255).